Tantrum Gotcha
"Mind if I go get my hair cut tonight?"
I had just walked in the door, work still unfurling slowly (but never completely) from my mind. The transition was abrupt, and I answered reflexively, "I don't know if that will work for me." I paused. A few more decimals shook free. "Um, let's see after dinner - once I settle in."
Janette agreed, and we enjoyed the chicken she had prepared in a chinese soy and ginger sauce. Gabriel had his plain - no sauce; Hannah, her Pediasure. Hannah has been a handful at the table lately, demanding to be put down as soon as she joins us. We've pushed anyway (that's why it's called a family dinner), but tonight, neither Janette nor I felt like fighting. Hannah played happily away on the floor. Janette included her in the conversation anyway from the table.
By the time dinner had finished, I said, "Sounds fine."
And Janette cut a bee-line to the door.
Gabriel wanted to watch his new Mario Bros. 3 DVD (the entire Saturday morning series for just $20 - too much, believe me
), so I set him up in our bedroom, and Hannah and I hunkered down for some play, singing, and watching her 7pm game shows. After several pick-me-up, put-me-down sequential demands from The Princess, I set her down on the floor.

She immediately cranked up a loud, arm-waving tantrum. As she began creening, I matched her voice and tone briefly. Her tantrum blended to laughter. Her bluff had been called. She turned back toward the tv and her Babbling Bee toy, still smiling.
-- Dad
Comments
Parenting 101 realized!
Little did you know just how effective your technique would be. Sometimes you just have to speak your kids' language, and stop trying to be the voice of reason. Glad that worked for you. On to the next plateau!
Posted by: Terry at Counting Sheep | July 19, 2007 04:01 PM